What topics would you like on The Surgery?

[Aled]

If you could have any topics on The Surgery to go out any Sunday evening between 10pm and midnight what would you have?

I'm doing all the shows over Xmas and New year

[halon]

I e-mailed the surgery about this this week :) i think a good topic for the next discussion show would be 'what distinguishes your class' cos it can spark alooot of questions & responses - and also perhaps 'school shouldn't be compulsory' i did it for a speech thing we had to do at school, and as people of all ages listen to the show i think it would be interesting :) lh xx

[Yudster]

Is there too much pressure on everyone - regardless of ability or ambition - to do A levels and go to university these days? Is it really helpful to most people, or just something that people do because everyone else seems to be doing it?

Is the world becoming more dangerous in reality (in terms of crime, violence, terrorism, natural disasters etc), or is it just the increased media coverage of everything that happens which makes it feel like that? Are standards of living and life opportunities improving, or getting worse for the next generation? Who is responsible for that?

Has Facebook made your life better, or worse?

One for the new year - what's the best way to really start and maintain a healthier lifestyle? How accessible are gyms, healthclubs, sports clubs etc to most of us? What might the alternatives be? Do we actually need to bother?

[bbb]

i would find my self agreeing with the topics yudster has said and to add to that how about one on diversty and tolerance or at lest teaching tolerance to the younger ones there is allways going to be hate in the wrold but at lest we can teach as much people to be tolerent of other peoples faith/gender and so forth

just the other day when i was walking home from the doctors there was a group of 10 teenagers standing around calling poeple fag dyke pecki chink and so forth that does make me sad but then again they could jsut be being kids tho i never done anything like that when i was there age

[Samual]

Is there too much pressure on everyone - regardless of ability or ambition - to do A levels and go to university these days? Is it really helpful to most people, or just something that people do because everyone else seems to be doing it?

I like this topic. The governments target of 50% of young people attending university by 2010 is ridiculous, especially in light of rising tuition fees and absurd ELQ funding. The big problem for me though, which Suzanne Burlton put so eloquently on Question Time, is how university is becoming a default option and being marketed as a passport to an amazing job and lifestyle, which is of course nonsense.

[VivAyrshire]

I'd like a debate about reality TV... I'm actually sick of it. I'm tired of looking at people being handed instant fame.. Thank God BB is ending, because all they did was sit on a sofa for 3 months, and became "famous".

Reality TV vs actually working for something. Should life go back to that.

Does it influence young people greatly?? Do they look and think "OH, I don't need to actually do anything in life. I'll just go on reality TV, and my life is sorted". Etc., etc. It certainly seems that way quite often.

Should there be far more serious programs or decent drama on TV?? I mean, when you look at something like "Life on Mars" (just as an example), and you compare this kind of fascinating TV with reality TV, you realise just how bad things are.

Plus the cycle of these programs never ends. Celebrity BB must be about to start, then Dancing on Ice, and so it goes on....

[BabyB]

good one viv, reality TV has gone out of control these last few years... it's becoming hard to find much on the TV anymore which isn't a reality show in some form or another...

a topic i'm eager to see the younger generations view on is the law in england where the school leaving age is being raised to 18... is this a good or bad thing? what about the age on consent? should that be raised in conjunction with this? or will 16 year old girls see getting pregnant as a way of getting out of school early legally? what plans should be put in place in this case?

also is it fair it's only in england?

i know this was new a couple of years ago, but i've only been listening to R1 for a few months..

[VivAyrshire]

Yep, that's what I mean: reality TV: it's everywhere: every channel. The worst one I've come across recently is an American TV reality show called, "Bridezillas", about young American "ladies" preparing for their weddings!! Can't remember what channel this is on, but I watched only one night of it, and it was so embarassing.

[Yudster]

I've seen trailers for that. Almost makes you feel like apologising for being female - but I'm not sure these "women" aren't actually a whole other species really.

[BabyB]

anyone seen "the little talent show" which is usually on one of the freeview music channel at 4am (yes I worked a lot of nightshifts!) - a whole programme solely dedicated to, and giving fame to people who CAN'T sing, or act, or dance.... oh dear lord.... it's kinda like a 1st round x-factor rejects show...

[VivAyrshire]

I've seen trailers for that. Almost makes you feel like apologising for being female - but I'm not sure these "women" aren't actually a whole other species really.


It's awful... the episode I watched involved a young "lady" being dressed up as a butterfly: she called herself Princess Butterfly, went on her hen night with wings, which she kept flapping, someone told her she looked ridiculous, and it wound up in a big punch up which spilled onto the front road. :005:

[corsaboivxr]

I'd like something about gayness being brought up, for 2 reasons:

1. Joe McElddry being "forced" to reveal his sexuality in the papers. (And the slight matter that I don't believe him)

2. This anti-gay bill that's in Uganda, and whether if it passes the bill, should it be denied aid and support. And particularly how Aled feels about it, given that he went over there to give support, but in a few months if he went back he could get executed for being himself.

[Andrew80]

1. Joe McElddry being "forced" to reveal his sexuality in the papers. (And the slight matter that I don't believe him)

he is my lover! lol i love him.... but i agree.. he should not have to be outed or inned

[bbb]

i agree i dont see why he should be outed or inned a persons sexaulty is theres alone i dont see why it should matter if a person in the lime light is gay or not

im thankful to live in the uk were we are free to be who we are if the bill in Uganda passed then it will be a human right vilation

how ever more still needs to be done over here in schools and such to stop all the gay bashing and bullying I left school in 2003 not once during sex ed was there anything to do with homosexulity and i rember being bullied because i gave one of my best mates who yes was a guy and clearly gay a hug and a spent hours talking to him for reasons i wont get into

[Laurawr]

Can u do something on Young Carers?

cause there really is no infomation for us


thanks Aled :)

xxx

[Yudster]

Now that's a damn good subject.

[VivAyrshire]

I agree. That would be a particularly powerful Surgery.

[Laurawr]

thanks guys :)

Yea cause im a young carer myself, and i have never met any other young carers, and i feel really left out when i with my friends cause they have concerns which seem so minor to mine like how there hair never stays in place or how that fit 6th former hasnt spoken to them al week, whereas i worry about my mum being in hospital. and i suppose i get kinda anoyyed and feel like noone understands whats i go though :/

sorry for ranting :P


xxxxx

[Yudster]

You rant away.

Have you been in touch with The Children's Society? Amongst many other things, they provide support and help for young carers -

http://http://www.childrenssociety.org.uk/all_about_us/what_we_do/young_carers/Young%20carers.asp

If you haven't already, get in touch. If that link doesn't work (wouldn't surprise me!), they're easy to find.

[Laurawr]

I have looked at their but I dont feel like a child, I'm 16 and i just feel like i have to grow up.......But part of me really doesn't want to,
And I feel like these charities will pity me, I dont want pity I want my mum to stay alive to see my wedding and see her Grandkids and all that stuff :(

[Yudster]

Oh sweetie, they won't treat you like a child, and they know you aren't after sympathy, you need proper support and, when they can, practical help. They could also offer you some respite care for a few days at a time so that you could actually BE a kid for a change, because I'm sure you are far more grown up than you ought to be at 16. If its not for you then fine, but don't completely rule out giving them a call in the future if things get really rough.

I don't know what the issues for your mum are obviously, but I hope she is getting the external support she needs too - if you think she isn't, and I - or anyone else here - might be able to suggest some avenues which could be helpful, drop us a PM. Never be afraid to ask.

[VivAyrshire]

I have looked at their but I dont feel like a child, I'm 16 and i just feel like i have to grow up.......But part of me really doesn't want to,
And I feel like these charities will pity me, I dont want pity I want my mum to stay alive to see my wedding and see her Grandkids and all that stuff :(


Jesus. You just made me cry with this post. If you ever need someone to talk to, then I'm always here, and can drop everything to listen, in PM or put it on the Board.

The Surgery helpline are good: 0800 110 100 for advice and support. :-) And may also guide you in the right direction. Also, that number is free, and won't be traceable from a landline, so you won't have people in at all your business, asking what the call was about!! :-)

[VivAyrshire]

Other topic ideas =

Eating disorders - was reading at the weekend that 59% of females won't eat burgers in front of their boyfriends. F****** ridiculous, but there you go. At least they'll be a cheap date.

Also, topic about phobias?? Heard this being discussed on local radio: one woman had a phobia about polystyrene, making it extremely difficult to shop in supermarkets.

[bbb]

one subject that would be useful to hear about would be one about rape and how to cope if you have been raped and the reasons why some poeple rape others?

i know its a depressing subject and some what tabo to talk about but it is one that would be helpful to a lot of teenagers as well as older people since there is/was a lot of childhood rape and recently in belfast a 19year old girl was raped at 3am or 5am in the morning(i cant rember the time)

it would be perrty useful to know how other people cope and so forth its also something poeple find very hard to talk about and i should know all to well any one who is Following me on twitter may recall me rambleing on about "something" that happned around this time years ago

im going to say something that i havent been able to say to anyone else other than a few friends and my doctor and before i say it i want to say this i want no pity and if you have not worked it out by now I was raped when I was 18 by someone I loved who a year later killed themselfs im not going to go into more details cause its hard to and the merory is fresh still even tho im 22 now the effects of it are still felt today

luckly for me i have someone who loves me and understands that untill i sort everything out we wont be haveing sex anytime i have tired to my mind flashes back to that day so im still trying to deal with everything not fully on my own but without the help of my faimly i have not told them and never will

[Samual]

I'd like one on social anxiety. I myself suffer from it and it has literally left my life in pieces. The worst thing is you cant tell anybody. People (in my experience) dont understand and often dismiss it. I don't feel it is recognised by the public in the same way self harm or anorexia is, which is sucks because its just as serious.

[VivAyrshire]

one subject that would be useful to hear about would be one about rape and how to cope if you have been raped and the reasons why some poeple rape others?




It's to do with power and anger apparently.... not really about sex. Control over another person...

Why do it? Could the person have been abused themselves in the past, and just continued the cycle? Do they have unresolved issues in their own heads, and so they need to make someone else suffer? Who knows.

I agree though. Good subject.


Another one could be an OCD surgery.. I was reading that David Beckham has to have pepsi cans all in the correct order in the fridge, which I actually find fascinating!!

Also, how about a light-hearted men vs women surgery. All about the different ways the female/male minds work - naturally our minds are superior (ha ha).. But maybe looking at different ways of approaching problems, relationships etc.

[VivAyrshire]

im going to say something that i havent been able to say to anyone else other than a few friends and my doctor and before i say it i want to say this i want no pity and if you have not worked it out by now I was raped when I was 18 by someone I loved who a year later killed themselfs im not going to go into more details cause its hard to and the merory is fresh still even tho im 22 now the effects of it are still felt today

luckly for me i have someone who loves me and understands that untill i sort everything out we wont be haveing sex anytime i have tired to my mind flashes back to that day so im still trying to deal with everything not fully on my own but without the help of my faimly i have not told them and never will

I understand flashbacks, and hearing certain words / sentences are all too common. Family can be difficult to talk too, because they are probably too close... it's often easier to talk to strangers, and it may be an idea to ask your doc to refer you to a person best able to deal with issues of a sexual nature.

Taboo subject though?? Hmmmm... I'd disagree with that, I'm afraid.

How to cope?? A good counsellor, one you can really open up to.

Rape crisis centre.

Remembering it is NEVER your fault. You did not ask for any of this. You were/are not responsible for another person's actions. How you go on to cope you are responsible for however. You don't have to be a victim forever. Get involved in the community/get out there!! Just as there are lots of bad people, so are there lots of good too!! :-)

I fully admire your courage for putting this onto a message Board. See, you're already a bright, shining star!!

[Chippy]

I was reading that David Beckham has to have pepsi cans all in the correct order in the fridge.

How exactly do you order Pepsi cans?

[Console]

Use-by-date, perhaps?

[Ajayrious]

How exactly do you order Pepsi cans?

Do you work in Marks and Spencers? cos they can never seem to work out how to order food either. :P

[VivAyrshire]

How exactly do you order Pepsi cans?


By having them all facing exactly the right way... all face forwards ... fascinating really... wonder if this is the result of spending time with Victoria Beckham?? Too much time, and this is what it does to you?? An obsession with cola??


Glad you're here, Chippy, btw.

[Yudster]

I don't think its Victoria's fault, David Beckham has talked a lot about his OCD tendencies and apparently they have been with him since he was a child. I can see where you could be coming from though.....

Saw a recent picture of their oldest lad - he is beginning to look the image of his dad. Lucky boy!

[VivAyrshire]

I was just kidding!! That said, she would drive me to do a lot of stuff!!

[VivAyrshire]

Have thought of more topics:-

1. alopecia (hair loss) and,

2. a surgery on personal hygiene. :-)

[Yudster]

Working with someone who has personal hygiene problems is a nightmare. Its hard to imagine that they don't realise the problem themselves, but you have to assume they don't - and its incredibly difficult to tackle. The smelly man in our office sorted himself out eventually, but it took years and it was only when he was working for a woman boss that anyone talked to him about it. All his previous (male) bosses had been too chicken-shit to say anything, although they were all happy to moan about him, but the woman just talked to him, pleasantly and non-threateningly, and he got a LOT better. Thing is its not always just a case of not washing enough, as much as not washing clothes often enough. I think this bloke used to wear a shirt for one day, then wear it again a few days later, but not bother washing it in between. Over time, his clothes got to smell worse than he did.

[Ajayrious]

Its hard to imagine that they don't realise the problem themselves, .

Its because they are simply used to it, and the changes are so gradual that they dont notice.

Its very common for Japanese people to say us English smell of diary products, but we dont notice it on ourselves. On the flipside English people will remark that the Japanese smell of fish. Its to do with diet etc. but we dont notice it in ourselves because we're used to it.

Think of it like accents, or seeing a relative after you havent seen them for a while, you notice how much theyve grown alot more if you havent seen it happening.

Anyways, i think what the guy needs is a friend, to tell him in a nice and friendly, not threatening way. His bosses may be chickens, but its probably best it doesnt come from someone in authority but rather an equal, so he doesnt feel hes being picked on. :)

[Yudster]

I liked him a lot actually. He was brilliant at his job, and whilst a little strange in his manner ("geek" doesn't even BEGIN to describe him.....) and like I said, eventually he sorted himself out to an acceptable level! But even so, I always regarded him as a friend. He was just different.

[VivAyrshire]

this bloke used to wear a shirt for one day, then wear it again a few days later, but not bother washing it in between.

I actually do that!! lol I mean : jumpers one day, and keep them for another. I don't smell though!! :043:

Working beside smellies is a nightmare. I once worked beside a woman who smelled of ..... well.... poo basically. She was vile, and no-one would deal with the situation.


Another topic: Cosmetic surgery vs ageing naturally!! :confused: (debate show).

O, and another one: Affairs - can relationships survive them!!

[Yudster]

I actually do that!! lol I mean : jumpers one day, and keep them for another. I don't smell though!! :043:


I bet you washed them sometimes though. I don't think he ever did. I mean never. And add to that he also didn't wash himself very often, you get a far worse scenario......

[halon]

There's a debate about cosmetic surgery next week, isn't there?

I think one on OCD would be good, because it's treated as a sort of slang word like 'oh she's just OCD about that sort of thing...' but then when I went to hospital for something completely unrelated, they immeiately identified me with having OCD. I had no idea it was actually a proper serious illness before, and I didn't realize there are actually doctors to whom OCD is there specialism, just like cancer specialists and stuff.

Another illness that would be good to cover would be M.E which is usually thought as - if people know what it is at all - being just for old people who are stressed or something. But I'm 13 + I've had it since I was 12, and I think it would be something good to talk about. The problem with this, however, is that allot of teenagers think they have a couple of the symptoms of M.E and just think they've got it. But for people who have it it would be really useful as I was just diagnosed with it at the end of a doctors appointment and I still don't really know what it is. It would also just be good for people who don't have it just to know about it.

AND FINALLY! sorry I'm going on here. but I think insomnia would be a good one to cover, because the surgery is on late night and some of the people who listen to it will have insomnia. It's a really interesting subject I think cos it's quite common but there aren't any ways of solving it just like that *clicks fingers*

Christ I'm messed up. Ah well :) H xx

[Chippy]

Have thought of more topics:-

1. alopecia (hair loss) and,

2. a surgery on personal hygiene. :-)

1. Get a hat

2. Lynx


Simples :mrgreen:

But really, good idea though I think they would have to cover a wider topic range.

[VivAyrshire]

There's a debate about cosmetic surgery next week, isn't there?




That right? Great. I've just my topic of the day for UM. :-)


Also thought of: shyness and how to overcome/disguise shyness and...

PMS!!


Yes, Yudster, I wash the jumpers every second day!! ha ha :icon_biggrin::icon_biggrin:

[halon]

Well I think that's what Aled said @ the end of the show on sunday - that + something else, tho I can't remember what the other thing is, but it's a debate show. I have a weird memory. I also think a follow up on the anorexia show from last year would be good - see how do I remember that?? xx

[Ajayrious]

a debate show about music/tv/movie piracy

[Chippy]

a debate show about music/tv/movie piracy

That's a good one, lots to talk about...
Like is it wrong that I downloaded music illegally because you can only download stuff once from itunes and I lost all my music and don't want to download everything again...

Hmmm itunes sucks :)

[VivAyrshire]

Anorexia would make an excellent show.

Also, bi-polar disorder. Heard on newsbeat yesterday that loads & loads of young people are ringing helplines about this.

BTW, Laura, I found you this:

www.stv.tv/justask - it's advice for young people who are caring, and whose education may be suffering as a result. :-)

[Chippy]

Also, bi-polar disorder. Heard on newsbeat yesterday that loads & loads of young people are ringing helplines about this.


This would be a really good one for me personally.

[VivAyrshire]

Aw bless.... Heard on the radio that it often develops during late teens. :-(

[Ajayrious]

I think i was bi-polar a couple of years ago. But i think i'm over it now lol. I'm not sure if thats how it works and I've never had it diagnosed by anyone proper, just listening to Stephen Fry talk about it on Qi made me think "hmm i have days like that".

I used to have days when one moment id suddenly be overly hyper and happy, and then in the space of a second id suddenly find myself bored out of my mind and not interested in anything that i could do to satisfy that boredom and occasionally i'd get really paranoid and stuff. The worst time that happened i almost lost a close friend because of it, and we didnt speak for at least six months, but we're friends again now :).

[Chippy]

I think i was bi-polar a couple of years ago. But i think i'm over it now lol. I'm not sure if thats how it works and I've never had it diagnosed by anyone proper, just listening to Stephen Fry talk about it on Qi made me think "hmm i have days like that".

I used to have days when one moment id suddenly be overly hyper and happy, and then in the space of a second id suddenly find myself bored out of my mind and not interested in anything that i could do to satisfy that boredom and occasionally i'd get really paranoid and stuff. The worst time that happened i almost lost a close friend because of it, and we didnt speak for at least six months, but we're friends again now :).

There are lots of quizzes online which 'tell you' and the one I did says I am but that is hardly proppa.
I did download a Stephen Fry show about it which he made in 2006 (I think) haven't got round to watching it yet though.

[Yudster]

As far as I'm aware, if you're bi-polar you are bi-polar, it doesn't go away. People can be affected to different degrees though.

I'm always wary about any "awareness campaign" about a syndrome like this though, because you end up with thousands of people seeing the tip of the iceberg, which is really all that is ever going to be presented in popular media, and then going around saying they have whatever it is. And often using it as an excuse for all sorts of stuff. Typical examples of this - there are plenty of people who say they have ME when actually they are just unhealthy, unfit and lazy; there are loads of people who say that they (or more often their kids) have Aspergers, hyperactivity, attention deficit disorder etc when actually they are just spoiled undisciplined brats with lazy parents who won't ever admit that they or their kids could possibly be responsible for their own actions; - I could go on but I won't! I do hope that won't happen here though.

[Harrison]

What about one involving the general election? Discussing controversial topics of each party - MP expenses etc etc? Introduction to politics and all stuff like that for many voters who will be turning 18 and have no idea about English politics. I guess a way of making politics more accessible for young people.

[Chippy]

What about one involving the general election? Discussing controversial topics of each party - MP expenses etc etc? Introduction to politics and all stuff like that for many voters who will be turning 18 and have no idea about English politics. I guess a way of making politics more accessible for young people.

I'm sure there will be an election special when the campaigning really starts.

[Laurawr]

BTW, Laura, I found you this:

www.stv.tv/justask - it's advice for young people who are caring, and whose education may be suffering as a result. :-)

aaw thank you :) my teacher no that i may turn work in late, but dont no the actual reason why, so my history teacher though it would be appropriate to say i was "depressed", really dont like her lol


I think a show on teenager being gay, and how they could deal with it, cause theres so much stigma attached to it nowdays

xxx

[Yudster]

There's a lot less stigma nowadays than there used to be. Doesn't mean there isn't plenty, but its a LOT less.

[halon]

a show on teenagers being gay

xxx I think one on laws on homosexuality in other countries would be good, like that one aled tweeted about in an african country. xx

[VivAyrshire]

More ideas: Puberty (what happens and why).

Seasonal Additive Disorder (S.A.D.), caused by lack of sunlight!!

And spotted the following in the Daily Record: "A new report has informed us that because of texts and MSN, teenagers' vocabularies are limited to just 800 words a day - despite knowing an average of 40,000 words. Is technology affecting communication skills? "

[VivAyrshire]

Some more:

1. Internet Addiction Disorder: Psychologists have now recognised this as a condition, with facebook addiction disorder being very common!!

2. Adoption: Coping with finding out you are adopted. :-)

[VivAyrshire]

More:-

1. Abortion and how to cope

2. Toxic Shock Syndrome

[halon]

2. Toxic Shock Syndrome

What's that?

Also, about the anorexia one - I think it would be important to stress it as an illness, because when people see Mary-Kate Olsen they're like 'eeeurgh she's anorexic, yuck! she's so stupid...' whereas instead they should say 'poor girl, she's anorexic. she must have a lot of problems in her life, she needs profesional help....' xx

[VivAyrshire]

Toxic Shock Syndrome = A rare thing apparently. It can be lethal though: a very serious subject (clearly, seeing as you may wind up dead).
www.toxicshock.com - often associated with females + tampons.

[VivAyrshire]

More:-

1. Dermatological problems and how to cope, for example with excema.

2. Mixed colour relationships and how to cope with any prejudice.

[Yudster]

My first husband was Indian and my two oldest kids are mixed race. To be perfectly honest I don't think we ever experienced any negative attention because of it - but I regard that as our good luck really.

[VivAyrshire]

More: How about hypnosis (after the success of Paul McKenna this morning)... the benefits of hypnosis and the different things it can help you with!!

[Aimee]

blimey...any more viv? lol

[Yudster]

Don't stifle her - viv is creativity personified!

[VivAyrshire]

Gee, thanx!! LOL How did your first day in the new job go??

[halon]

I've been hypnotised, and tbh I don't think it can hold a whole show - or even half for that matter. It's nothing like in the movies, you have to go for several sessions, and it's basically a dude/tte suggestion things to your mind while you're in a deep state of relaxation or 'trance.

I had eczema for aaages when I was younger, but the problem with a show like that is that everybody's skin is different so it's hard to make a show without it just being a one-on-one, personal question thing.

I'm sorry I sound so pessimistic! Some more ideas:

Bipolar disease, and how it can develop in young people - I thought it was just for old, stressed, men, but my friend's 17 and she's got it.

The link between mental health disorders - for instance, she's also got OCD, Bulimia and more.

H xx

[Yudster]

Gee, thanx!! LOL How did your first day in the new job go??
Not bad at all thanks - the people are slightly barking which always helps I find! My boss is Scottish............gulp!

[VivAyrshire]

Barking people!! Great!! Should be interesting!!

More topix:

1. Dealing with jealous/insecure boyfriends/girlfriends.

2. Dealing with insomnia.

3. M.E./multiple sclerosis.

I find the subject of hypnosis fascinating. I've been for a few sessions a long time ago, but actually found it didn't work at all. Apparently there is a percentage of people for whom hypnosis simply does not work.

[halon]

1. I think that would make a good bit of a show if not a whole one, cuz it can also include friends, parents etcetera

2. I have insomnia. Apparently the way to sort it out is to wake up as early as you would've if you'd had the sleep so your biological clock goes back to normal....

3. Why do you put those two in the same category? Just wondering :)

L xx

[VivAyrshire]

Put what 2 in the same category??

My mum has insomnia, and someone told her you should actually stay UP as long as possible, and not try to fight it, and think you MUST be asleep by a certain time.

[Console]

I believe halon is referring to M.E. and M.S., the third option in your most recent list.

[VivAyrshire]

I see... Well, I have no explanation whatsoever really, other than the fact that the topix both begin with the letter "M".

[halon]

Sorry I wasnt more specific :) I was just wondering cuz I have M.E. I would really love it if there was a surgery on this for two reasons a) so other people can learn about it b) so I can learn about it - the doctors didn't really give so much information!! H xx

[VivAyrshire]

Jono off of unofficialmills has it too. I think some doctors said he was lazy before he was properly diagnosed. That annoys me.

[Yudster]

Problem is, in the same way that some parents of disruptive kids say their kids have food allergies and some people who are too lazy to pay attention at school say they have dyslexia, some lazy people will always say that they have ME. These things are equivocal to diagnose, therefore easy to fake.

[VivAyrshire]

Hmmm. Fascinating, yuds. :-)

[VivAyrshire]

This is a bit random, but could we have a topic on "Making Decisions". How best to make decisions.

I mean, I'm out today, and it's perfectly sunny, I've been running in some nice scenery... now I'm angry because I didn't go somewhere else which could have had nicer scenery still. But if I had gone to the area with nicer scenery, I just know I would have wanted to be back where I started this morning.

I don't know what this means exactly. Anyway, it would be an interesting Surgery if there was one about making decisions, how to stick to them, and to simply be happy.

A "How to Simply Be Happy" surgery ??

[halon]

Argh I know about the faking thing - like 5 people I know are like 'Oh yeah I've got M.E too!' and I just feel like yelling 'HAVE YOU BEEN TAKEN OUT OF SCHOOL AND ARE YOU A PATIENT AT GREAT ORMOND STREET?! NO, YOU'RE JUST OFF TO P.E!!!' it annoys me so much cuz you'd never pretend to have M.S or something...

And also I was thinking about anorexia, and why there is so much stigma attached instead of sympathy, my conclusions:

1. You get called 'anorexic' which makes out like that's all you are, you wouldn't be called 'canceric'! It makes out like you are no longer human or something, it's weird...

2. When all those models became skinny people called them anorexic, when infact they were just underweight: just because someone's underweight doesn't mean they're anorexic!

3. People think that anorexia is just to do with being stupid and not eating anything, when actually we should just eat and it would all be better! I think anorexia's way too much associated with eating...

How would one on being happy work? Perhaps if Aaron Ballick or Dr Mel was there teaching you how to look the best in a situation and a decision - it'd make a good half surgery :)

Could a one about how to deal with unexpected changes in your life work? e.g a footballer who seriously breaks his leg, or a tailor who gets arthritis?

xxx

[VivAyrshire]

I read somewhere that anorexia is to do with control over one's life, and not food at all.

The unexpected changes is a good one, because these can be soooo stressful, especially if you're used to living a certain way.

[VivAyrshire]

Another one (from a magazine) = excessive sweating (as opposed to B.O.)

Apparently this can be treated with botox.

[VivAyrshire]

Another one:

Incest this time... coping with sexual abuse within the family. Was reading a horrific story yesterday afternoon about a girl abused by her dad, and how, although she knew nothing felt right, she didn't actually know these things didn't go on in other families until she spoke to others at her school. She eventually approached a youth worker, who advised her to speak to her mother, who thankfully believed her. Blew the whole family apart, and the dad was eventually locked up.

Would make a powerful surgery.

[VivAyrshire]

More: mental illness - e.g. schizophrenia

Also - a look at personality disorders

[Aimee]

haven't you already suggested that ^^ one?? lol seems familiar.

[VivAyrshire]

Maybe I did.... I don't think I said personality disorders though. :-?

[Mitchell]

Another one:

Incest this time... coping with sexual abuse within the family. Was reading a horrific story yesterday afternoon about a girl abused by her dad, and how, although she knew nothing felt right, she didn't actually know these things didn't go on in other families until she spoke to others at her school. She eventually approached a youth worker, who advised her to speak to her mother, who thankfully believed her. Blew the whole family apart, and the dad was eventually locked up.

Would make a powerful surgery.

Somehow I can't imagine many callers for this one.

[Andrew80]

Somehow I can't imagine many callers for this one.

Whats the number?????? lol

[VivAyrshire]

Somehow I can't imagine many callers for this one.

Somehow I can.

That's just one of the things I admire about R1 - they can take the so-called "taboo" subjects, and make sure they are discussed.

[halon]

I have just got into hospital [agaaaain] and i think a good one might be coping with being in hospital and all it entaiols - blood tests, if you're younger sleeping alone or generally in a weird place, more people less privacy etcetera xx

[VivAyrshire]

I hope you get well soon..... yeah, could be a good one.. coping with hospitals and / or long-term illness.

[VivAyrshire]

Try this one: "The perils of online dating" (see my man advice topic for more, if you like)

I know there's gonna be a Surgery with Scott Mills about safety online, hopefully this could perhaps form part of it.

[halon]

Yeah that could definitely work :) I used to go on a chatroom, I don't go on it any more but 3 of my best friends are from there. I think it's important that people know that everyone online isn't a 50 year old freak! I said to my mum: 'am I a freak?' she said 'no, of course not!' 'then why do you automatically presume my friend's must be?' which I think is a valid point. I'm not saying they are automatically safe and normal etc but people are scared of just going online...
It did help it was a chatroom with a specific subject.
I'm sorry but we haven't been brainstorming here and doing they're work for them just so they can do two weeks TWO WEEKS on masturbating!!
xx

[VivAyrshire]

LOL I'm sure they'll do other things in the future too!! :-)

[halon]

Just go on for weeks and weeks and weeks just talking about masturbating and sex - Aled has enough questions just himself to stretch out at least a years worth!! x

[VivAyrshire]

The Surgery actually made the top 5 trending on twitter no less for this particular week!!

[Yudster]

I know lots of people who could happily spend two weeks on masturbating..........

[Andrew80]

I know lots of people who could happily spend two weeks on masturbating..........

I spose it made a change for them double clicking re-tweet.... a change is as good as a rest

[VivAyrshire]

I don't even understand this post!?

[halon]

I tweeted #thesurgery :) I don't get it either Viv! x

[Andrew80]

it made sense earlier :)

[VivAyrshire]

I've got another one!! Erectile dysfunction - was reading about this @ weekend.

[Yudster]

You bothered by that often Viv?!

[VivAyrshire]

No!! LOL I'm a female, so not possible.

Happened to an ex-bf of mine... He didn't want to go back to work after Xmas holiday, and rather than rising to the occasion, appeared to 'flop to the occasion' - ha ha

[halon]

This is so pointless as it's open surgery from now on - I hate the new surgery >< xx

[VivAyrshire]

Actually, you know what... So do I.

It took me until Sunday to realise that the TOPIC idea has gone and this is a DISGRACE. How dare they.

I'm taking this round to UM.